When Your Daughters Steal Your Product…Learning How To Share Again

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You teach them how to walk. You teach them how to talk. You teach them how to take care of themselves…but what happens when you’ve taught them a little too well? What happens when these beautiful, innocent girls you’ve raised start hijacking your loot?? Something must be done, or go with the flow and teach them what you know? Oh, let me tell you, that decision is tough. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted to tell my girls “you’re allergic” or “it’s bad for you”. But that’s not doing them any good when they start to crave the things that make my day. Why shouldn’t they be a part of this? I would have been devastated if my mom kept me from anything cosmetic!

It all started with Lemon Cream Scrub by Sanitas. My oldest was starting to break out on her nose, and I worked at a spa that carried this product. It smells amazing, and it’s great for all skin types. I brought her home a sample of it, and before I knew it, the bottle was missing from my bathroom. It was helping her skin, so I figured that wasn’t such a big deal.

Then it was my lip balm. Again, not a big deal. It’s inexpensive enough and we all need lip balm. I would hand over my Burt’s Bees lip balm, and when one of them would ask if they could hold on to it, I never gave it a second thought. Until I realized I don’t have any more lip balm. (See? This is why I MUST stock up on lip gloss!!! I can justify anything!)

For Christmas, I’ve been getting my girls bath products and nail polish as stocking stuffers. Little did I know, I’ve been creating monsters! In the past few months, they’ve both taken a liking to using the shower in my bathroom. They have a perfectly good bathroom, so when I asked why, they both replied, “You have all the fun products in yours.” Yes, I do, I would tell them, but that doesn’t mean you can use it all. I had to give them both a run-down of what was an approved product and what they better keep their hands off! Where was this coming from?!?! I grew up with 2 sisters, and we fought over everything under the sun. I thought one of the best perks of adulthood was the fact that you didn’t have to share anymore!!!

The other day, when I went to shower and get ready for my day, I grab my “every day” shampoo and realize, it’s gone. Ok, I always have a back up and I told myself I guess I didn’t realize I was getting so low on it. Then I grab my “every day” conditioner…gone. My Olay Ribbons Body Wash…gone. My face scrub by Benefit…gone. I get out of the shower and grab my all-time favorite body butter by Pacifica…GONE!!! Have you ever seen the movie How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days? The part where Kate Hudson’s character puts all the pink, girly stuff all over Matthew McConaughey’s apartment and he freaks out and starts yelling, “no, no, no, no, NO, NO!!!” That was me at this point. What was going on?? It was time to call in the culprits.

After I gave them both a piece of my mind, my wonderful 11-year-old (who lives to prove me wrong these days) tells me that they did listen to my rules…the products that they were using weren’t on the “touch it and die” list. Damn. I hate it when she’s right. I took a deep breath and introduced them to a cute little tool called the shower caddy! I showed them how to fill it with THEIR stuff and take it with them into MY shower. So far, it’s working…but it’s only been a week, we’ll see how this plays out.

There are some products I don’t mind sharing. The Clarisonic has removable cleansing heads, so I am happy to share that with them. How can I keep a clear complexion from them? That’s not fair. Polishing our nails together has become fun, so I am happy to let them play with my OPI collection. I’m slowly coming around to sharing my Pacifica products with them. I’ll admit, that’s tough, but if my mom had introduced me to the scent of Tuscan Blood Orange by Pacifica, and then tried to keep me away from it…that would have just been cruel.

Sharing my loot with my girls isn’t easy, but I have to think about how I feel about cosmetics…insanely giddy! Both my girls told me for their birthdays, they want product. I asked them what kind of product. They said they didn’t care, they just want product…as long as there’s something by Burt’s Bees, and Pacifica, and Benefit, and…oh Lord. I have no one to blame but myself. So, I guess I’ll embrace it and be happy I’ve converted them over to my world.

What about you? Do you find yourself having to share your favorite cosmetics with your daughters? I want to know!

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